Simply Men and Women

Cheating is never good: whether on tests, relationships, or in life. Nothing good comes from it. However, some seem to think that it does.

Now, I'll be honest: I have cheated once. However, I was convinced my relationship was over and thought he was doing the same. Was it right? No. Would I do it again? No. Do I regret it? No, I learned. I'm not perfect nor have I ever claimed to be. However, when I cheated on my ex and subsequently got back together with him a few weeks later, it gave me courage. When I realized things with my ex-boyfriend wouldn't work after I moved to a new city, I gained the courage to leave him for someone else who I have been with for almost three months now.

Many people go into marriages overly optimistic about the possibilities of divorce and underestimating the amount of commitment. Turning the other cheek to bad behavior and the fact that you aren't compatible is easier when you don't live together and aren't constantly around each other.

So, why?

Studies have found that, for men, it's about sex. However, it's more about just being unhappy in general for women. Some of the women in one of the pieces I read gave their reasons which, in most of our opinions, are very damn good:

1) An abusive spouse drove one of them to have an affair and, eventually, get the courage to ask for a divorce. However, deception usually isn't a good idea: get help first.

2) Beginning to resent each other is not productive. Goals change and people change. Instead of cheating, remember that there are two sides to problems in a relationship. Have the courage to ask for what you want and be able to compromise.

3) Boredom. However, it is more effective to change things up in a 
relationship. Try a vacation or weekly date night.

While infidelity is always hurtful, it can force issues in a relationship to surface. Whether in a relationship or a marriage, issues do arise and many couples are afraid to face them. Communication is key.


 

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Checking in from Wilmington, NC. Anyone else going to experience the wrath of Hurricane Irene?

It's no joke- Roseanne Barr will be running for president! Despite living on a nut farm, she recently announced on Jay Leno that she is officially a candidate for president on Thursday. She is starting her own political party, "The Green Tea Party". This is what she said: “You know, Jay, I decided that since you’re the one that got Arnold Schwarzenegger elected as governor of California, that I wanted to make my announcement here on your show because I really wanted to ask for your support. My announcement is that I am running for president of the United States. I’m totally serious,’cause I want to be a part of the debates, because I want to represent the tax payer. In fact, I’m choosing the tax payers as my vice president...I have feral pigs that overrun my farm, and I’d like to shoot them out of a helicopter. But, um, that’s kinda what got me thinking that I too should run for president, if she can…I feel like she’s (Sarah Palin) stealing my act, anyway...I'm not for either party because they both suck and they're both a bunch of criminals. So I made up my own party. It's America's Green Tea Party.”

Call me crazy, but, this chick has my vote. She's a certified badass, doesn't take any bullshit from anyone, and isn't afraid to fail. She learns from mistakes and can face her fears. Is she really that political? I have no clue. But, she can stand up to the people who doubt her and say "f**k you, would you like to buy a vowel?" Strong women, like myself, deserve respect. We swear, we fight, we love, and we are leaders. Personally, I would kill to see Chelsea Handler as her running mate. Both are surprisingly intelligent women with a no-nonsense attitude that I respect. They are efficient and not afraid of work. Plus, both women are breaking ground in what was once a man's world. Personally, I appreciate a woman who can hold her own and just be honest- even if it requires being a bitch! She's always been the working class hero, why wouldn't she make a great president?

Take that, Obama! How does it feel to be up against a woman who has more balls than you? Sarah Palin, Barack Obama, and Herman Cain need to watch out!

Pass the nuts, guys. It's gonna be a great show!


Read more: http://technorati.com/politics/article/roseanne-a-woman-with-bigger-nuts/#ixzz1UURmyKtM

I'm not sure how many of you have been keeping up with the news lately, but there was a woman who cut off her husband's penis and put it in the garbage disposal. Lovely? I think not.

About a week ago, a woman was jailed for drugging her husband, cutting off her husband's penis, and putting it in the garbage disposal. She began by poisoning his tofu soup. When he awoke, his feet and wrists were tied to the bed with nylon rope. As he awoke, his first site was his wife cutting off his penis. Surely, my first reaction would be that it was a bad dream. Sadly, that wasn't the case. 

She severed the penis with a 10-inch kitchen knife, tossed it in the garbage disposal, and turned it on. Doctors have not had any luck reattaching his penis. 


When the police arrived, she informed them that he "deserved it". She has been charged with aggravated mayhem, false imprisonment, assault with a deadly weapon, poisoning, spousal abuse, torture, and administering a drug with intent to commit a felony.  She is now booked in the Orange County Jail where she faces the possibility of life without parole. Her bail is set at one million dollars. She is set to be arraigned on September 23rd. 

This case has created quite a stir. Who could do this? Why would you cut your husband's penis off? Did he hit her? The list goes on...However, my question is much simpler: why couldn't they have just been blunt and simple with the charges? Was it too much to say that she cut off her husband's manhood? 

The case continues...


Read more: http://technorati.com/women/article/castration-in-california/#ixzz1T82771Fr

So, this is a question most of us haven't thought of. What in the hell is the point of a urinal? I mean, really! How many homes have one? Are men really incapable of lifting up the seat and pissing in a toilet?

I have no clue why this bothers me. Maybe because people always say women get so many special concessions and men don't. However, urinals to me are still pointless.

If your aim is that bad and you can't pee in a normal toilet, that is truly sad.

I rest my case.

Today is a day of patriotism, honor, respect, celebration and remembrance. While many of you are at the beach, lake, or any other sunny locale, I hope that you take the time to read this and donate to one of these charities.

1. Armed Services YMCA: This organization does everything that they can to ensure that military families are taken care of at all times.

2. Semper Fi Fund: The charity makes sure that injured Marines are taken care of by providing them with immediate financial support.

3. Homes For Our Troops helps build specially adapted homes for veteranswho were disabled in war at no cost.


4. Operation Homefront mainly provides financial assistance to military families.


5. Fisher House builds special comfort homes for families to stay near injured loved ones near major VA and military medical centers.


6. Books for Soldiers provides soldiers with a variety of donated books for them to read during their downtime.


7. Operation Paperback provides books, magazines, DVDs, and many other forms of media to troops overseas.

So, in honor of Independence Day, consider contributing to one of these charities.


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As a kid, I remember when my dad would read to me every single night. In fact, it is one of the fondest memories I have of my late father. From a young age, books opened my eyes to worlds that only exist in your imagination, as well as real places that are just as tangible and magical.

Reading is Fundamental is an organization that shares this sentiment with me. Their mission is to make sure that all kids have access to books and the magic of great pieces of literature. They work with low-income families and want to make sure that no one is illiterate or left behind.

As a writer, I FULLY support this organization and hope that you do too! I don't know what my life would have been like without the knowledge, joy of reading, and ideas that books filled my head with. So, please, read with your kids every night and support this awesome organization!



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Non-straight youth are more at risk for suicide, sexually transmitted diseases, and other risky behaviors than straight youth. Acceptance is critical for gay and bisexual teens. However, when they experience rejection, the consequences can be horrific. One instance of this is George Reker's "Sissy Boy" experiments. These experiments were bullying, although on a larger and more lethal scale. This monster was once a head member of The National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, who claim that they can "cure" gays. In fact, Rekers used therapy to "spank the gay away" on more than sixty children at UCLA's Gender Identity Clinic in the seventies. Little boys and girls were tortured by George Alen Rekers for simply being different. Kirk Andrew Murphy was one of these victims.

In lab reports, Murphy is referred to as "Kraig"- an effeminate boy who enjoys playing with dolls. He was said to be a sweet, smart kid growing up in Los Angeles. 

His mother's quote in a CNN article sums up her concerns with a "less-than-perfect" son:

"Well, I was becoming a little concerned, I guess, when he was playing with dolls and stuff," she said. "Playing with the girls' toys, and probably picking up little effeminate, well, like stroking the hair, the long hair and stuff. It just bothered me that maybe he was picking up maybe too many feminine traits."

The therapy was harsh, although he was deemed "cured" by Rekers. In these sessions, there was a one-way mirror or window where researchers and parents can see which table he gravitated towards: the "masculine" table or the "feminine" table. Whenever he played with "masculine" toys, his mother was to give him love and affection. However, on the flip side, when he played with "feminine" toys, his mother ignored him- no matter how much he begged.  At home, the therapy was more intense and severe.

His parents used a chip system to reward good behaviors (blue chips) and punish bad ones (red chips). Kirk's father lashed out beatings left and right, despite attempts by the other siblings to curb his behavior.

The affects of this "science experiment" are horrible. During high school, Kirk ate his lunch in the boys' bathroom and never felt that he was good enough. To this day, his mother regrets the decision and says that it is murder. Frankly, I couldn't agree more. This "therapy" probably drove him to commit suicide at the age of thirty-eight. 

Despite therapists claiming that there were no "red flags" during sessions, it became apparent that Kirk was conditioned to say anything to make others around him happy. In general, this was at the expense of his own happiness. 


Really? When did a boy who is maybe slightly more interested in dolls than toy soldiers become a crime?

For those of us at home, sadness and anger fill our thoughts. How could a mother do this to her child? What did the poor boy do?



Read more: http://technorati.com/lifestyle/family/article/when-is-a-science-experiment-murder/#ixzz1QcIlVnQf

It may seem ironic- the WWE has launched an anti-bullying campaign. GLAAD and the Creative Coalition have both partnered with the WWE to help combat bullying.

This unusual partnership came about when John Cena made "homophobic" remarks on the show back in February. While these remarks were most likely unintentional, the WWE wanted to make sure their fans knew that they never condone bullying. Here is what one of their press releases said:

"The mission of “be a STAR” – which stands for “Show Tolerance And Respect” – is to ensure a positive and equitable social environment for everyone regardless of age, race, religion or sexual orientation through grassroots efforts beginning with education and awareness. “be a STAR” will promote positive methods of social interaction and encourage people to treat others as equals and with respect because everyone is a star in their own right...“Every seven minutes a child is bullied. It’s time to stop that clock. We're proud to be an architect with WWE of ‘be a STAR.’ The Creative Coalition's role is to employ the arts as a powerful resource in the ‘toolbox’ to combat the bullying epidemic. WWE is honored and thrilled to partner with The Creative Coalition, the National Education Association Health Information Network and our other partners, in an effort to change the way people interact and treat others."

Everyone, even pro wrestlers, know that no one deserves to be bullied. Despite a person's race, age, or sexual orientation, everyone deserves to be respected. Their newest movie, "That's What I Am".


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