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Work on Yourself First

· self improvement

Work on yourself and the suitors will come. My parents had me in all kinds of activities as a kid. As a result, I got an early start dating (I had my first boyfriend at eighteen), multiple different interests, and a love of learning. I never had a hard time meeting people. Did I mention that I'm an INTJ? I hate initiating conversations, small talk, etc. But, when you live an active, involved life, you will meet more people and have more to talk about. While Netflix is great, I don't want to hear about the latest series you got into and think that's the only hobby you have.

Find what you love and are passionate about. I'm self-employed and a student. So, I get to do some of the things I enjoy on a daily basis with my dog sitting and coaching business. I get to write, help women with their love life, play around with marketing, and grow two businesses. I haven't quit my "day job" as an Uber and Lyft driver but, hopefully that day will come soon. In my spare time, I get to travel, explore (even if just around my city and nearby areas), work on learning languages (I studied French and Spanish and am slowly learning American Sign Language and German), and be active. I try to fill up my weekends with meetups, cultural events, adventures, dates, hiking (if warm), church activities, and doing what I love. On Sundays, I'm a little lazy. I go to church, plan my week, and take a few hours to try different recipes while I cook ahead for my week. Some days, I am lazy. But, most days, I am not.

Try that new work out class or pick up hiking/yoga/pilates/Crossfit/anything active. Take a class on art or writing. Visit a museum or aquarium (check out after hours events!). Learn a language. Travel. The sky is truly the limit when it comes to self improvement. What do you want to accomplish in life? What do you want to learn? What do you enjoy doing?

Work on yourself so you can thank yourself later. Even when you do settle down, you need to have friends and a life outside of a relationship. This is true if you are together for five minutes or fifty years. The last thing you want to do is sit on the couch, gain a bunch of weight, chop off all of your hair, be miserable, nag him and drive him crazy. You need to have a life- even if it's just doing something a few times a week.

Work on yourself so Mr. Right can find you. Trust me- you won't find him sitting on the couch watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians (although addicting). You may meet him at your yoga class, at the airport, or at a museum admiring a piece of art. You may meet him at a cooking class or your house of worship. Here's the thing: it doesn't matter how you meet him- just that you do. While you shouldn't just do this to meet Mr. Right, it's an added bonus. No one wants to be with someone dull and boring. No one wants to be with someone that can't carry on a conversation about something they're passionate about. So, work on yourself.

Work on yourself so you are happier. If you want to lose weight, learn to paint, or learn French, now is the time to do it. If you want to switch jobs, now is the time to do it. If you want to take a cross country road trip, now is the time to do it. Are you sensing a theme here? Whatever it is that you want to do, the time is now. While you may meet Mr. Right swiping on Tinder in your sweatpants, you still need to have a life.

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