Enjoy your own company! As an only child, this always came easily to me. As a kid, getting grounded wasn’t really a punishment. Why? I can entertain myself for hours and rarely get bored. To this day, this holds true. Even as an adult, I enjoy my alone time. While I would love to meet the right person and have someone to spend the rest of my life with, I need my space sometimes too.
Whether single or taken, there will be times in your life where you sill be alone. Get used to it and learn to enjoy it. There is no reason not to travel, go on adventures, and live your life solo. If you aren’t happy single, you will not be happy taken. If you aren’t happy by yourself, you won’t be happy with someone else- romantic or otherwise.
While it’s hard to say this delicately, it baffles me how so many people are so needy and insecure. I know some people who are scared to go to a drive thru by themselves! When people find out that I extensively traveled solo and often do things by myself, while making friends along the way, jaws drop. Some say “I could never be that brave”. However, it’s a necessary skill.
If you are struggling, do something by yourself that’s relatively small. For example, go out and get a cup of coffee. Then, build up to bigger solo events gradually. Honestly, starting small and moving up gradually is the key to accomplishing anything in life.
Regardless of your relationship status, you need to learn to be happy by yourself. If you can’t enjoy your own company, no one will enjoy yours. It’s a harsh reality but, sometimes, the truth hurts. People are comfortable with people who are comfortable with themselves. People enjoy being around people who WANT to be around them- not who are insecure, needy and clingy.
Honestly, quarantine hasn’t been that bad for me. As a natural introvert, I’m fine doing my own thing. While outgoing, being alone doesn’t bother me. I actually enjoy the freedom of doing my own thing, as well as peace and quiet. Don’t get me wrong- I like having fun with a friend, partner, or family member. But, there are times in life where you have to do your own thing. So, you might as well get comfortable doing it.