If it doesn't work out, it can be a blessing. Sometimes, if a Tinder match you have your sights on doesn't set up a date or a guy you're sure was the one dumps you, that can be God's way of protecting you. It may seem cruel and awful at the time. But, I've learned over the years that his reasoning is better than ours most of the time. Some of those times have been with men I thought I would end up marrying. But, in this case, it's with a Tinder match.
A while ago, I recommended an immigration attorney to a good friend I met on Tinder a few years prior. I don't remember how I remembered his name- maybe because he had a cute dog? By cute, I mean Instagram-worthy.He looked like he was my type- successful, dark haired, dark skinned, seemed to be intellectual, etc. He wasn't just great on paper- he was perfect. But, both of us never met and ended up dating other people. So, things worked out the way they were supposed to. We didn't really keep in touch or anything but, for some reason the name rang a bell.
Anyway, my friend went there and told him how he heard about him. Needless to say, everyone got a good laugh. Out of curiosity, I asked him how it went. The first two things he told me was that he came off very effeminate and was short.
For the record, I don't necessarily expect a man who is a super alpha male- I prefer quieter men. But, I don't want a man who comes off as really feminine. I think men who dress well and are cultured, but can still do masculine things, are hot. But, I have never been attracted to metrosexual men.
The next one is the kicker though:
"How short?" I asked.
Now, some of you may not realize that I'm about 5'8 and over six feet tall with heels. So, my cut off to date someone is about 5'8". I prefer 5'10" or taller but, a realistic and open minded.
Even though this guy seemed great on paper (and by all accounts is a nice person), it would have never worked. Another side note, everyone uses Tinder. I'm currently on Tinder. If you aren't on Tinder, you should be. Trust me, you will get dates. But, I have had a few people ask questions about it and, as long as you aren't married or posting anything inappropriate, you should be good.