How crazy is it that so many people give up on love? It’s funny because there are so many people that say “I don’t have time for a relationship”. Then, they whine about being single. They put off getting married and “save it for later”.
If you’re not ready, I get it. However, don’t make excuses out of fear or insecurity. It is totally fine and normal to want to settle down with someone. There are people who have way less time than you who are happily married.
I’m not married yet but I definitely put myself out there and hope to be when the timing is right and the person is right. While it’s up to God, I put in the effort to be the best version of myself and know that I will meet the right person when the time is right.
It may seem like the timing is never right. However, when it is, everything just falls into place- you don’t have to force or control it. If you have to force or control anything or anyone, it won’t work out for the best.
I don’t think that you should rush it. However, some people just give up. They may say “Oh I’m not gonna date. I’m not gonna do anything you know I’m just gonna focus on me”. While you should focus on yourself and put yourself out there, you need to be open to love.
With that being said, don’t go to the other extreme and go husband-hunting either. It’s not that hard to marry the first guy that shows the slightest bit of interest in you whether you like it or not- people honestly do it all of the time. Honestly, getting married isn’t that hard- I would be married by now if I wanted to settle for the wrong person. Don’t go do something just to get a guy. I definitely don’t advocate getting married to anyone at any cost. That never works well long term.
The right people usually show up in your life when you do what makes you happy and have fun. It’s counterintuitive, but it happens. I know people who have met in some crazy ways. When I visited Israel years ago, a couple I knew met in an S&M Club. I don’t know if they’re still together because we’ve lost touch. However, he was crazy about her and they worked well together. I have also met people who started off as one-night stands and couples who love each other now but couldn’t stand each other when they first met.
So, keep an open mind. Be open to love. Don’t make excuses and don’t give up on your dreams. While I am enjoying the single life now, I cannot wait to meet the right person and settle down.