Yesterday, I went to get my tickets for the Yayoi Kusama exhibit at the High Museum of Art in Atlanta. The original plan was to go with a Meetup group. BUT...things didn't go as planned. Why? Long story short- THEY SOLD OUT WITHIN FOUR HOURS! Keep in mind that the date I was planning to go was well into December. If you don't know who she is, here is a link to some of her work.
While I got tickets for an alternate date and time, I was sort of disappointed that I couldn't go on the exact date. In all honesty, I may camp out super early on the day I was originally planning and try to get some of the first come, first serve tickets. Her artwork is incredible and I know I won't be the only one wanting to go earlier.
However, this experience really got me thinking about something: scarcity makes something valuable. This is a prime example. Think about it: how many people camp out for the newest shoes/bag/gadget/etc? How many people will reserve in advance for a prime opportunity to view the arts/ a new musical/exhibit or save up to take the trip of a lifetime? I'm in the latter category but, scarcity makes something precious. If someone is serious, they will do whatever it takes to get it. You are no different.
Men WILL line up to date a high quality woman. You don't necessarily have to be the prettiest or the smartest. Trust me- that woman most likely doesn't exist. But, a woman who takes care of herself, has a healthy set of boundaries, is easy to be with, and has a life outside of a relationship is prettier to a quality man than a Victoria's Secret model who lacks those qualities.
Men want to be around someone who has a genuine life and interest. It doesn't really matter what those interests are. There are women who are into knitting, Tupperware and all kinds of quirky stuff and the men that they marry/date think it's cute. For example, Rhonda Rousey is one of the top MMA fighters on the planet and is happily married to a man who's crazy about her. I also have a friend who breeds reptiles and, while sorta quirky, guys line up around the block to date her. As long as you're obsessed with and passionate about something that isn't him, you're good.
Don't get me wrong- you SHOULD NOT play hard to get and play games. As a coach, I don't advocate that. But, you should be hard to get and easy to lose. It has to come from a genuine place. Which would you prefer- a man who is constantly working on himself or someone who comes home from work, watches Netflix, and chills all day not trying to improve themselves? While relaxing and being a little lazy has a time and place, no one wants that day in and day out. Anyone who is emotionally healthy will want someone who has a life outside of their relationship. Every man (and, hopefully, woman) wants someone they can show off and be proud of.
Also, if you want to attract a quality man, you need to be a quality woman. Any man will line up for that in droves. Plus, if he knew he had one shot to go out with a gorgeous woman, he's not going to bookmark her or ask her out at the last minute because his original date cancelled. Instead, he'll ask her out as soon as possible.
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